Good internet dating icebreakers
You’ve read her profile, Googled that author she mentioned four times, and managed to tactfully point out your similarities without sounding desperate. According to Christian Rudder, co-founder of Ok Cupid, users on his site exchange about 4 million messages – a day.
You may get a response, you may not – and there's a lot of reasons for a lack of responses. Maybe she’s seeing where things go with a guy who got there first. That's roughly 166,666 messages being sent every hour – one of which was yours. Let’s push the odds of meeting someone back in your favor. In his book, ‘Dataclysm: Who We Are When We Think No One’s Looking’, Rudder weighs in on whether a canned message actually works, or if women see through that BS in an instant.
Let's assume the initial hurdles standing between you and meeting the next Love of Your Life (or Your Night) online have been cleared – you've chosen a dating site, written an engaging profile, and selected the perfect profile picture.
An icebreaker message needs to elicit a positive emotional response, otherwise she’ll immediately move on to the next guy. And funny gifs are just the thing for making her laugh.
If she’s attractive, you’ve got pretty stiff competition because she can afford to set a high bar. Even on Tinder, you need to keep it classy if you want to score dates with high quality women.
The report is the result of a month-long experiment, during which members of the Hinge team crafted over 100 different openers and let a small portion of its users access them.
Whenever the app matched those people with someone new, it sent them a prompt to use one of the conversation starters.